Dating in your fourties
Being healthy is an important part of my life now and I want a partner where that's important to them as well. Be in touch with yourself, what you want and what's really important to you BEFORE you try to join your life with someone else. There's nothing sexier than someone who knows who they are, is comfortable in their own skin, and has room in their life to share that with someone else. But I would challenge you to look at it differently. You have the insight of 40-plus years of getting to know yourself and the world you live in. Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of , that she loved her nieces and nephews but did not want children of her own.
Get rid of the "Perfect List.”Be realistic, but don't settle. Don't look for crazy chemistry (again, you're not 20 anymore), look for affection, respect, love, honesty, and someone you can see being your BEST FRIEND and LOVER for the rest of your life.The search is a kind of journey, and along the way you tend to learn a few things about yourself, and about the society we live in. Everyone knows lots of fabulous single women in their 40s …but can’t think of any equally fabulous single men the same age.This is one of life’s big mysteries but sometimes I think the key is identifying the right places to look. When you’re over 40, you’re usually pretty comfortable in your own skin You know what you like, and what you don’t.Children are not for everyone, but there’s a lot of social pressure on women to procreate.Sometimes I wonder if we convince ourselves we want children without really examining it.