Dating as a single father
(I am not always my better self.) If he was the kind of man who would put his girlfriend before his kids, you wouldn’t want him.If he’s your entire world, then all you’ll be able to see when he spends time with his kids is time that you don’t get to be with him.Either his kids will come around or they won’t, and either my boyfriend and I will be able to move through all of it together or we won’t. And when you bring single parents, their former partners, and their children into the mix, things get even messier.There’s nothing worse than a desperate clown doing tricks for approval.Kids have an instinct for sniffing out bullshit, and if you try too hard, they’ll take a magnifying glass to whatever warts they’ve already decided you have.Rule #1: Be Realistic You might be used to someone who only has you to spend his time and money on, but with a single dad, the situation will be very different. Try not to be too upset if he can't afford to take you on extravagant dates or he has to cancel because his daughter got sick.
When I am my better self and I see that look in his eyes, I give him a kiss, tell him I love him, and go on my way.
You are the woman who’s actually there, feeling resented, in the way, and often tossed aside for more important things.
You’re entitled to your feelings about that, and you get some space to make it about you, too, because some of it is.
She’d already lost something immense when her parents divorced, and she couldn’t bear the thought of losing anything else.
My friend’s resentment was just fear dressed up as something else, and the girlfriend was just collateral damage. He’s doing the best he can, and the last thing he needs is to feel even guiltier than he already feels.