Dating and living at home
“I don't want to rush through life anymore,” Sandy says.
“I’m trying to appreciate working on things that interest me in my spare time, like cooking, and [I want to] spend a lot of time with family.
In high school, it was a necessary evil due to being minors and all, but what about during those less defined times, when one is officially an adult, but not yet financially independent?
This “transitional period” where you’re still sharing home space with your parents is a state with which millennials are all too familiar, and needless to say, it puts a major wrench in your dating life.
“Tell them what is and isn’t okay: 'Don't expect me home for dinner every night, I’ll do my own laundry,' whatever.
You're not 12 anymore, and you don't want to fall back into those old patterns.”Carla is now living on her own and finishing up grad school (she’s getting a degree in communications).
The longest stretch lasted about two years in her mid-'20s: After getting laid off, Megan found a job working in a gym, but it paid too little for her to support herself.
Living at home “was not easy,” Meghan remembers — especially because her parents were enduring their own challenges at the time; they were going through a divorce.“Once, I was out at a bar with friends, and a guy I [had a crush on] met up with us,” she remembers.“We ended up going back to his place, and the whole time I was thinking, I have to be back home before my parents notice I stayed out all night. This level of control frustrated Carla, making her feel like she’d regressed. “I told her that I knew she was worried about me, but I was an adult who had already lived on her own, and I needed to be treated as such,” Carla explains.She’s hoping to avoid another return home, although she fears that if she doesn’t find a job immediately, she may have no better choice.“When you're over 30, I [think] there's [more] stigma attached to living at home,” she observes.“Sandy,” 29Sandy moved back home with her mom last November after trying to make ends meet for five years on a paltry salary.